And the way we think can hurt worse than any words. And when left with nothing but your own thoughts, and if those thoughts are negative, self-hate is born. It takes a real effort to turn negative self-defeating thoughts into positive life-changing ones. But try it! IF you hate yourself, is there a specific thing that you hate? Get involved with a sport or a favorite hobby. Work on what you can change, and ask God to help you accept the rest. Create the healthy life you desire and deserve!
There are more than you think, but try starting with one. For example, I am a loyal friend or I care about others, or I am in touch with how I feel, or I have a lot to offer my friends, or I am a good listener, etc. Find out what your friends and family value about you.
You might be surprised to find out what the people who love you see in you! As you begin to dwell on the good things you offer, your confidence will grow. Betsy wrote: Since I stood up for something, people started to respect me and I was able to find confidence in myself. Each day, find something to do that makes you feel proud of yourself.
Discover the things you love, try new things, go to new places. Make some short-term and long-term goals. Those words are toxic. Why hate yourself? When in reality there is a lot in you worth loving. Challenge yourself to reflect each day for just a minute or two about what you feel grateful for that day…maybe it was delicious pancakes for breakfast, a smile from a friend, nice weather, could be something as simple as the color of the grass, or a good grade on a quiz.
After all, if God loves you, and He does with all of your faults and hurts, it should make it easier for us to accept ourselves. God made you very unique. But I am of value because God loves me, even if no one else does. And most importantly, keep your faith in God this will help lead you to the happiness you seek. Please stop hating someone God loves so much. Why did GOD make me ugly what did I do wrong for this punishment. Unloved and unwanted has been my life, Now I just pray for a fast death and wished I was never born.
I will kill myself. Luckily I was to stupid to know how to tie a proper knot, so I woke up bleeding on the concrete instead of hanging after I lost consciousness. Luckily my car was able to protect me as I purposely crashed it at electronically limited miles per hour. Luckily I was able to wake up from my coma after 3 weeks when I took 2mg Xanax. Luckily I woke up after I overdosed on heroin when I shot it up the first time I tried the drug. Luckily I was never able to pay off my debts because if I did I would buy a gun right now and shoot myself But I would never want to leave my debt and mistakes for someone else to pay for.
Everything is my fault. He took all 60 and went into a coma like I did. He is now mentally impaired and I will kill myself for what I have done. I took a son away from two poor parents. I get it. Your ex-gf and best friend need you, You survived maybe because you got lucky, or maybe because you have to live. You owe it to your friend and ex-girlfriend not to. How much time do you spend judging others?
I would love to be able to sit here and write that I am such a wonderful, open, loving person that I don't judge anyone, but that's just not the case. I judge. And I mean judge.
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And I hate it. It's one thing I do much more often than I should and it's one thing that ultimately causes a great deal of unhappiness within me. I judge others' clothing. I judge others' actions. I judge others' words. I know we all do this to some extent and I also know that it relates completely to how we feel about ourselves.
Though I'm becoming a lot more comfortable with who I am and, therefore, judging others less yay! I've been thinking a lot about this, and I've realized that judgment is something I do without thinking -- all the time.
Someone cuts me off in traffic? I mumble, "What an asshole! I think, "God, she needs a makeover!
I think, "That's really pathetic. I've cut someone off in traffic before. I've worn outfits that weren't fabulous hello, middle school! I've certainly spent time with exes I shouldn't have. I judge others when I could very well be in their shoes. And, worst of all, I feel bad about it after. When I judge someone, I don't feel good about myself -- not even for a second. I feel bad. I feel sad. I don't want to be judged and I've always believed in the idea of treating others how I want to be treated. And I certainly wouldn't want someone whispering to a coworker, "Did you see her new hair color?
It's not what you look at that matters. It's what you see. So why do I do it? Right now I think it's become a habit. I believe it started off as a way to bond with people, especially other women. When you talk about someone else, most people will gladly join in.
There is a bonding that comes with judgment so I understand why I started doing in in middle school and high school. There's nothing like getting a laugh from the popular kids! But I'm not in middle or high school anymore. I'm not even in college either where I did a fair share of judging as well, though I always found a way to rationalize it so I didn't feel like I was being a grown-up high school girl. I'm an adult now and that means I need to act like one. Everything you need to break unhealthy cycles is within you.
I know I can change. After having changed so much in relation to my attitude, I know I have the ability to change and to stop placing so many judgments on others. It's important to remember that I'm talking about negative judgments here.
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Not all judgments are bad. Not all judgments are hurtful or painful or wrong. But most of them are. And those are the ones I want to stop. I want to be a happy person and judging others does NOT make me happy. I know, as the quote above says, that it's up to me to make the change. No one is going to put an end to my judging for me. Just like happiness, it's up to me to make the change. I'm pretty darn sure this won't be easy. I've been judging others for a long, long time. It's going to take a lot -- and I mean, a LOT -- of work for me to realize what I'm doing and stop it before it happens.
It's going to take a lot for me not to join in when I hear the critical words of others. It's not going to be easy, but, most things that are worth it aren't. After doing a little thinking, I thought of 4 reasons we judge, 5 things judgments do, and 6 ways to stop judging. I think understanding why I do it and what it does is just as important as figuring out how to stop, which is why I've created three lists instead of just one.